Here is what I don't get about certain people......they will complain about the same issue, and bug you over and over for insight and information about why a certain thing is happening to them. You hear the same complaint and question day in and day out. "Why don't you like me? Why don't guys like me???" You give them (what you think) is the answer to why the problem might be happening. It was probably the answer that many others before were afraid to say, but it needed to be said in order to start fixing the problem. You gave them an honest answer that they didn't want to hear, they flip out, and then you are deemed the insensitive asshole.
I have never been good at saying the "correct" and "proper" things. I think from a pretty scientific and analytical perspective. I believe there is a solution for every problem. Rather than talk and wonder, and question, and complain about it, the problem needs to surface so a solution can be obtained. Maybe this wasn't a problem to said person, and that is fine. What I said was my opinion of the problem. I wasn't trying to tear the person down or hurt their feelings. If I hurt anybody, it bothers me, and not just a few days. I feel bad about hurting someone or taking the wrong actions years after the event when I realize that what I said or did was wrong.
I could have just said, "I'm not attracted to you, so lets move on." I guess I should have just said that and left it alone. I guess I didn't have to answer the "why" of it all, but I thought she deserved to know. I know that I would want to know.
Last thing I will say about this is that there is tons of advice online about solving this problem......you can either do something about it, or accept things for how they are and move on.
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